Gary and I are doing a 40-day long Bible study together, and meeting once a week with a small group from our church.
It has been the most transformative experience we have had in our marriage.
A typical evening, before: mindlessly watching whatever our DVR has recorded for us while we shovel our dinner into our mouths and shuffle through the evening exhausted from a long day with children (me) and work (him). Gary plays Words with Friends on his iPad while I read Facebook on my iPhone. We are kind but distracted.
A typical evening, after: we are sitting together and reading Scriptures together every night (usually at the dining room table while we eat dinner). We are reading the Bible and learning to interpret it for ourselves- not what a minister might say or a naysayer might think. We are having dialogue about how to bring this wisdom into our daily life.
And we are praying for our family together. Praying for our children, our marriage, and all the little and big things that come our way. Thoughtful prayer for each other and our marriage has been instrumental at bridging the gaps that can come between us. And I am finding that my days are more peaceful, more intentional, and that I can feel that God is with me.
And truthfully, there is nothing sexier to me than watching my husband pour over his Bible and have honest, intelligent dialogue together and then hear him pray for our children. It is simply the coolest.
I am blessed.
(A note to my non-religious friends, whom I cherish: In sharing this aspect of my life with you, I know that you will respect my beliefs just as I respect your beliefs and choices. Thanks!)